Is It Okay To Have Sex When Your Baby Is In The Same Room? (Parenting & Intimacy)

Navigating intimacy with a baby in the room can be a delicate balance. Our post confirms that it’s generally safe and acceptable to have sex while your baby sleeps nearby, up to around 18 months of age. Experts emphasize the importance of ensuring the baby’s safety and maintaining a discreet, quiet environment. We also address common concerns and provide practical tips for maintaining intimacy without disrupting the child’s well-being or parental responsibilities.

If you’re finally in the mood to engage in rumpy-pumpy after giving birth, you know by now that your baby is always in the same room as you and your partner. So there’s pretty much only one option, have sex with a baby nearby.

So should you have sex when your baby is in the same room? This question has been asked often, with some claiming it is a form of child abuse while others admit they’ve done it before themselves.

According to family law expert Anne-Marie Hutchinson, having sex with your partner while your child is in the same room or even in bed is okay until 18 months old, when the child becomes aware of what’s going on around them.

You only have to ensure that they are well fed and tucked in a safe space since they can sleep through anything.

Does having sex in the same room as your baby harm them?

No. Expert Psychologist Donna Cameron said that having sex in the same room as your baby wont harm them and that it’s perfectly fine, as long as the baby is in a safe place.

A young mom and dad are laying on the bed with their infant daughter in the middle, everyone looking happy.

“You can have sex in the same room as your baby, your sex life is important, and your needs as adults and as a couple does not disappear as soon as you become parents,” she explained. 

Babies don’t know what sex or what sex noises are. Trauma occurs when harm occurs. The sex noises are not causing them any harm, which means they will not be traumatized.

There shouldn’t be any stigma attached to having sex with a baby in the same room. Sex is what created them. 

The only downside is that no matter how much you long to get back together or how strong your sexual urge is, your mind will always be on the elephant in the room, your child, all through the act.

A baby in your room allows intimacy, but you tend to stay preoccupied. So, just involve your partner in the decision just as much as you involve them in the act.

Of major concern should be the baby’s physical safety.

So, if you’re co-sleeping with your baby, make sure they’re placed in a crib or off the bed when it gets hot and heavy. If they’re in a crib next to your bed, they’re safe, so get to it.

Things to consider if you’re having sex in the same room as your baby

A mom is putting her sleeping infant son in a bassinet next to her bed

If you plan to share a room with your baby and have sex in their presence, here are a few pointers to keep in mind:

  1. Make sure that your little one is in a secure place so that they do not get smothered while you are rolling about on the bed. In a bassinet/cot or a place where they won’t get disturbed. Also, try to remain as silent as possible.
  2. Ensure that they’re well-fed and fast asleep so that you won’t have to worry about them seeing something. Sometimes they’ll wake up due to a bad dream, and when they see what mom and dad are doing, they might think that dad is hurting mom or even question why mom and dad are naked. It’s more out of the fear of the unknown. 
  3. If you have very young babies, you need not worry about having sex in the same room since they do not understand what’s happening. 
  4. Remember, babies can sleep through anything, so they won’t get disturbed.
  5. If your babies are grown enough to understand these things, you may need to find a private space. Also, consider your lovemaking language. If your baby could hear all the “Garbha Sanskara, Beethoven, or Soulful” tunes when they were in your womb, then they can hear all the cuss words while sleeping next to you or in the same room as you while having intercourse. So either be very silent or don’t use cuss words at all. As a parent, you have the duty and responsibility of protecting your child from seeing inappropriate things either on film or in real life. Just do your best to prevent it.


For a healthy relationship with your baby, they need to sleep next to you. And for a successful marriage, parents need to play the hide the sausage game, who doesn’t?

Having a healthy sex life makes you a happier parent and a positive role model for what adult intimacy feels like. That means you need to be selfish about your sex life. If the baby is napping, seize the opportunity!

As fun as it seems, move the kids out of your room when they’re old enough. And get away once in a while to get loose. Having a bit of variety that includes loud uninhibited hotel sex keeps the fire burning.


Is it morally right to have sex when your baby is sleeping next to you?

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with it.

It’s a decision for you and your partner to take in your relationship, and it is certainly not worth the abuse tag.

You both have to be on the same page. Just do what suits you best.

What if our baby sees us having sex?

For the younger ones, you can move the baby to a floor bed, or you could move to the floor. You can also step out to another room but handle it calmly in the eventuality that the little older ones see you having sex accidentally.

Sit them down and talk to them about what they saw. The magnitude and the consequences of this impact depend on the child’s age.

How can parents ensure their baby’s safety during intimacy?

Parents should ensure the baby is in a secure, separate sleeping space, like a crib or bassinet. It’s crucial to avoid any situation where the baby could be accidentally disturbed or harmed.

What are some discreet ways to maintain intimacy with a baby in the same room?

Consider keeping noise levels low and choosing times when the baby is in a deep sleep. Utilizing a baby monitor can also provide peace of mind while maintaining a degree of privacy (like leaving the room for a moment).

How should parents handle the situation if an older child accidentally witnesses intimacy?

Address the situation calmly and age-appropriately. Explain that intimacy is a normal part of adult relationships in a way that is understandable and reassuring to the child’s age and maturity level.


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Hello, I am Emelda from Nairobi, Kenya. They simply call me mama Lilly. A fun of long road trips and a very good cook, along with my mommy duties to a super active girl. She inspires and challenges me in equal measure, and that is how I get to share with you our journey of triumph as we grow and tag you along.

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